Hermosa

How I love you Hermosa. You have been so good to my ego lately. I still can't help but be ridiculously shy when I'm approached by a guy, though. I think it's really nice that some guys still know that the "first move" is their move. BUT it was also fun testing out lines from my Christmas present Pickup lines and Come-ons for all Occasions. I can't believe how many people actually respond to that stuff. It's not all crap, of course I'm sure most are tried and true lines. I've probably even heard some of my male cousins use them with success, but they're pretty boys so it's no doubt it works.


Flattery. If you're trying to hit on a girl please don't use "NEGS" that's just lame. Especially if you see that the girl is just trying to have a good time with her friends. Flattery will get you places. She'll smile or laugh and be obliged to, AT THE VERY LEAST, thank you for the compliment. Now if she's a hard biznatch that just doesn't seem to want to have fun then I'm not sure how to help you there. I'm not even sure why you'd want to approach her.

Then again, maybe her face is just naturally angry. You're thinking DAMN you're mean Greey, but I'm not. You probably know exactly what I talking about too. Some people's face are just naturally angry looking but when they smile it's as if someone turned a light on. Suddenly, this mean hard core biznatch is a gorgeous sweet loving woman you want to get to know. So if you said something like "I bet you look even better when you smile" you'd find yourself in a nice conversation or "conversation" which ever you're looking for. If I was standing alone and I didn't know anyone I'm sure my equilibrium face wouldn't be a smile but if you said that to me, SHIZZZ I'd blush! You know, if I were of the blushing persuasion.

Also, I've found that it's easier to act as a wing to someone than to try to find a man for yourself or myself  because I'm just talking about me here. If I go out thinking I'm going to find a guy to dance with tonight; I get nervous! On the other hand, if I think hey, let's find (insert friends name here) a toy for the night, then I'll just be casually flirting with people; trying to introduce them to my friend so there's no pressure on me! YAY! I love that.

Anyway, last night was more of a win for me than a fail so GOOD TIMES!!

Being single during the holidays is still kind of a drag. As long as I'm single, though, I'm going to have a blast =D Faltering and failing the whole way through.

Lack of response

BTW I'm upset! I asked you... my FRIENDS to help me and give me advice on how to attract the attention of a certain person and no aid was given! You suck!

No matter, though. I'm over it. But you suck!

Probably shouldn't say that to my readers.. but I know you'll love me anyway. =D

Tired

Is it so bad to want to actually settle down already? At 25?

Seriously, I'm tired of this dating world it just makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. I'm too picky. But I have every right to be, no? Why do I always feel like such a man when I date around. OR Why does that matter? I know if I were a guy doing the things I'm doing it wouldn't matter but being of the other gender I find myself censoring my actions. No, don't do that it isn't lady like.You really shouldn't act that way, men won't find you attractive. I've reached a point where I just don't care anymore.

You know when people tell you to be single so you can "find out what you want" or "figure out who you are". Well, I wish they also told you what to do afterwards.What is to be done with all the knowledge you've gathered on your journey to enlightenment? This is the stalemate I've reached. Just a bit over two years of "finding myself" and "figuring out what I want" has left me completely aware of who I am and what I want. However, it has also left me alone, still, and tired.

I never realized how many Mr. Right now's there were in the world.

Why is it so hard to find a connection, a true honest connection on every level and an attraction of a compelling, not to be confused with lustful, nature regardless of looks or bank roll. Not that I've ever been a shallow gold digging woman. But, where are the men with ambition? Not the men chasing greed and wealth. But the men with dignity and loyalty? Is it really too much to ask for the kind guy who'll open doors for you and pay for your dates (even if I pay for the movie and you pay for the dinner) AND still be moderately physically attractive. I can't believe how much I took all that for granted when I was younger, chivalry.

Media is teaching men to suppress their gallant and chivalrous nature and telling women that somehow, that isn't what they're looking for. Then because women are so accustom to dating assholes they don't know what to do when they meet a true to life nice guy and they break him and an asshole is born. Same with men, they've forgotten what a real woman looks and acts like so when they find one they take advantage and take for granted, thus a good woman is broken and the cycle continues. The nice gal is broken by the asshole and thus becomes the bitch who breaks the good guy who becomes the asshole blah blah blah.

In all this ranting I just realized. I'm not sure if I'm putting up defenses and thus not allowing myself to feel the connection or if there just really isn't a connection. I'm horrible!! Grrrr!!!

Actually, my friend asked me a question and it was just the right question to drag the truth out. Damn.

I know I'm random. Why are you friends with such a strange person?!! Sheesh!